Last night we had a visit from my husbands cousin and his wife and little 5month old baby. It was a wonderful surprise, and we so enjoyed having a tiny baby to fawn and coo over. The Little people were enthralled by him … Until he pooped, and then launched into an impressive screaming cry!
As with all new moms, the conversations soon turned to breastfeeding, sleeping arrangements, and crawling. From there it went onto different brands of nappies (the age old debate of pampers vs huggies) and then teething remedies!
To be honest, my children are well past that stage, and I’ve forgotten some of the details involved in parenting a tiny baby. I was too sleep-deprived in the moment, to remember it, which is actually a good thing! As a result I have slightly delusional misconstrued memories which consist mostly of sweet baby smell, angelic smiles, and chubby thighs! There’s vague recollections of nappies leaking through not only babies clothes, but onto mine while we were out shopping, being vomitted on, living in different coloured trackpants for about 3 months straight, scrubbing blue crayons off a wall in the lounge, and one day looking into the mirror and seeing a slightly grey-haired old woman look back, and I survived it all… But like I said I prefer focusing on those fleeting moments of perfection and contentment!
As a result, much of the conversation, consisted of me nodding, and reassuring the new young mom, that every decision she had made thus far, was the right one, for her, for her baby, and for her family! Ultimately Allaah entrusted every baby to the mother that would be best for that particular child, and while there’s moments when we question ourselves, remember as long as your child is happy, healthy and feels loved, you’re doing a fantastic job! Motherhood is not easy, and that’s why Allaah has promised such beautiful rewards for it, and has commanded children to respect and appreciate the efforts of their parents.
The Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) also said in a famous narration:
‘Paradise lies at the feet of your mother’ [Musnad Ahmad, Sunan An-Nasâ’i, Sunan Ibn Mâjah]
What can be greater evidence of honouring women than this? Islam has effectively placed the ultimate reward for human beings in their devotion to their mothers.
In those moments where you feel overwhelmed and lacking in confidence, remember Allaah believed that you were the best mother for your child, so trust yourself!