Moments of Mummy clarity

Many roads to success

Its that time of year again…

You know when mums are organising school lunches, and new uniforms and stationery lists. Along with that, comes numerous Facebook and Instagram posts about how adorable and brave the kids were on the first back to school, or how cranky and teary, or how nonchalant…    And then of course, the numerous blog posts, stay home mums thanking their lucky stars that the schools are open again. And working moms overtaken with guilt that they can’t do the whole kiss-kiss-hug-hug-talk to teacher-hug-again…instead they have to kiss-love you-bye-rush to work.

And then that leads to the inevitable debate of who has it harder, working moms or stay-home moms?

And even though I’ve read so many (too many!) of these articles, somehow I still find myself sucked into it. Stay-home mum vs working mom. Now that Ive been on both sides n the fence, stay home mum for 9 yrs and now working mum for almost a year, I find myself asking, how do these debates help, and more importantly does it matter?

At the end of the day, all parents want the same thing for their children. For them to be happy, healthy, safe, successful and to find joy in life. Irrespective of whether I’ve been a stay home mum or a working mum, this hasn’t changed in the least! There are so many different ways to achieve this. Why must we always debate the pros and cons of every little thing. It actually starts way before baby is even born to be honest, natural birth vs caesarean, bottle feeding vs breastfeeding, what age to start solids, co-sleeping vs baby in own cot…the list is never ending!

Instead of being judgemental, and having a my way is better than yours attitude, maybe we should acknowledge that every parent is doing the best in terms of what works for them. If at the end the kids are happy, why the need for such harsh perceptions of a parent who choses a different route to yours. Theres many roads to success and we all take different paths, so just do what works for you and your family!

Oh, and heres hoping that this new school year is amazing  🙂 If youve read my last blog post, youd know of my reservations and anxieties about how the kids would cope being in a new school, Im very happy to report that they LOVE it! So woo-hoo, and on that note, I have to drop off them at school,and do the kiss-love you-bye-rush to work now! 😀


2 thoughts on “Many roads to success

  1. Spot on! I can’t thank you enough for this. Wallahi I keep saying to my self does it matter? Your way isn’t the only right/sure way! What does it matter who has it worse? Always judging and competing. People’s circumstances vary tremendously and there’s no ‘one size fits all’ approach.
    May Allah guide us to what is beneficial to our akhirah. Ameen.
    Thank you once more. Jazaakillah khair!


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