The hard questions

I’m in my parenting journey at the stage where my children have outgrown cots and prams. Toilet training is done, and finger paints are a thing of the past. We sleep through the night now, have proper conversations, and even chores.

Its in that transition phase where they’re no longer babies, not by any means, but don’t quite have a comprehensive understanding of the world just yet. We’re at the point where the foundations of Imaan are entrenched, where they have absolute belief in Allah, His angels, His books, His prophets, and the last day; where they know about Jannah and Jahannum; where they understand the difference between Fardh, Sunnah, Nafl; they know what is wudhu, and salaah, and ramadaan. They understand and apply the rules in an age appropriate manner. And thus far, for the most part, I’ve been able to answer the numerous questions with relative ease (except for the occasion I was asked WHERE is the internet) however in my attempt to raise strong-willed, free thinking and questioning individuals, I’ve also set myself up for a slew of questions I can’t even begin to answer.


Some of these include:

‘Why do people not like muslims’
‘Why are planning on drawing Nabi (saw)? Why do they hate him so much?’
‘Why do they always show us as mean guys with guns?’
‘Don’t they read about real Islam?’
‘Don’t they know TV is not real stuff?’
‘Why would they want to burn the Quraan?’

It broke my heart to know that such a young child could so easily recognise such hatred, but it also gave me the resolve to try and answer and explain as best I could. A lot of what I said flew over his head, media propoganda and the likes… However, whilst trying to make it so that a 5 year old and a 10 year could understand, I was hit with a moment of inspiration.
‘Remember last Ramadaan, we learnt about Kindness from the Quraan and the Sunnah. Remember the story of the lady who hated Nabi (saw) and threw dirt in his path, but his kindness to her eventually made her accept Islam?’

I then elaborated on how Islam was initially spread more by the nature and personality of Nabi(saw) than by actual scripture, as so little of it had been revealed by that point. I tried to explain that the best manner in which to combat hatred was with love. When people came at you with preconceived notions of nastiness, to disarm them with a smile, a kind word, a helpful gesture. Cause them to question to lies they have been fed by the media, cause them to doubt the notion that muslims and Islam are evil, give them an opportunity to see a different side…the true side!

I then reminded them that unfortunately, all through their lives they will encounter this prejudice, however, but by living our lives in accordance to the Quraan and in line with Sunnah, we can overcome it. To remember that the greatest of muslims faced the hardest of trials. To know that Allah only tests those that He loves. May Allah strenghten our children to face the world with true conviction of Imaan, and may He guide them to be true flag-bearers of Islam, InShaAllah

آمــــــــــين يا رب العالمين


12 thoughts on “The hard questions

  1. I’m facing the same struggle of answering such questions from my children as well. May Allah help us to give them the best responses to fill their curiosity, while keeping true to our faith. Lovely write up, mA.


  2. Very well explained Mashallah. I always wonder when the time comes to answer such questions asked by my little one (she’s only 2 right now), how would I answer them. Like you mentioned, it’s best to use reference of the prophet PBUH and to be honest in our explanations.

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  3. Salam, I think you came with the best possible explanation one could have, I hope all of us will be able to prepare our children as loving human beings and good Muslims for the times ahead.<3


  4. Yeah. I actually attended a meeting at the masjid a few months ago where the parents were talking about combatting islamophobia in their schools with the kids. They got bullied and had lots of problems and the administration didn’t seem to care. 😦 That is one of the reasons why I think it’s a good option to have well-funded Islamic schools. But raising your children to be compassionate people in the footsteps of the prophet Mohammed (saw) is a great way to raise strong believers insha’Allah! May Allah make it easy on you all!


    1. I think we need to empower our children irrespective of the communities they find themselves in. Islamic schools are a wonderful option, but then how do we ‘re-integrate’ the children into mainstream society later in life? Will the issues not crop up then later on? Its just such a conundrum, and so many pros and cons to every one of them…
      But InShaAllah we just keep on doing our best and making dua to Allah to guide us as parents and protect our children too.
      Thank you for commenting ❤


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