Moments of Mummy clarity · Ramadaan

Its slipping by again…

Remember the countdown?
Remember the anticipation?
Waiting for Ramadaan…preparing for it…cooking food in advance and stocking up the freezer…or collecting recipes for foods that are nourishing and still quick to prepare…searching the internet for fun ideas to keep the children occupied…downloading the best apps…

And now, we’ve got just less than 10 days left.

Its usually at this time, that I personally feel myself started to fail and flail. The excitement has dwindled for the kids, you’re getting tired from the late night taraweeh and the early morning suhoor, you’re starting to feel drained, its very hot/very cold…so how do you make the best of these blessed days before its too late?al-qadr1

Aisha (ra) said, “With the start of the last ten days of Ramadan, the Prophet used to tighten his waist belt and used to pray all the night, and used to keep his family awake for the prayers.”

Well, here’s a few tips:

•Don’t have too many iftaar parties. Ramadaan is a time for ibadah, not for socialising! Alternatively if you do want to share a meal with loved ones, organise a potluck of sorts, ask each person to bring a snack / dish/salad or dessert with.

•Try and keep meals simple so you’re not spending too much time in the kitchen. Also encourage your children to help prepare iftaar with you.

•Even when busy with other chores, make constant dhikr. In this manner everything you do becomes ibadah too.

•Do you spend a lot of time on the road, dropping kids off at school, madressa ect? Play quraanic recordings in the car / on your ipod. Even listening to the Quraan is an ibaadah. Choose a Qari that speaks to your heart, that makes the listening to the recital melodious and gives you goosebumps. We all have our own favourites.

•Ask at your local musjid for info on study groups/halqas/ any special programmes in your area. Its always easier to stay focused when in a group of like minded people.

•Make a dua list, and read through it everyday. That way you don’t ‘forget’ what you mean to pray for. Cry hard and ask ALLAH everything you wish for in Dunya and Aakhirah— don’t hold back.🌿Ask for khair and ease –Raise your Duaa – Remember it’s the night of decree, be specific in your Duaas and ask for each and everything you need – Hajj, Job, Career, Spouse, Children, Home, whatever. Don’t play small in your Du’aas as you’re asking the KING OF ALL KINGS!, Al Maalikal Mulk, Al Mujeeb ..don’t ever forget that.. nothing is difficult or impossible for Allah.💓

•Be especially committed during the last 10 odd nights. Encourage your family to do the same. Even children as young as they are, love feeling included in special times. Encourage them to make dua. The dua of children is so precious!

•Set aside some time everyday that’s just for you! As you would make an appointment for other priorities, make an appointment with your Quran/musallah and keep that appointment! Choose a comfortable corner or spot in your home, where you can concentrate without any distractions. Switch off your phone/laptop/tab, that tweet/facebook comment can wait!

🌿If for some reason you have been slack the first 20 days and have been struggling, and not been able to take advantage of the month, don’t worry.. we have the chance now to reap benefits of this month, have our sins forgiven and take from its treasures inShaAllah

•If you’ve been slacking with Quraan recitation, then at the very least read Surah Qadr. Find a Tafseer of this surah, read it, understand it! You will feel the power and greatness so much more.

Ask yourself, has prayer, Quran and dua ever felt more sustaining? Know that this fatigue is temporary and will end just like a long day of fasting in the summer heat. Simply waiting for Ramadaan to end is cheating yourself. The night of Power is approaching us. Rededicate yourself to ibadah, renew your initial Ramadaan resolutions, let us reap the most out of these days. There are so many people who were with us during the last Ramadaan who are now in their qabrs. We never know if we’re going to be blessed with another Ramadaan next year, so take advantage of it now!

As Sheikh Suhaib Webb said on a recent Facebook post:

‘Ramadan lasts a month, but Allah describes it as “ayyām.” The word ayyām means a short period – between 3 and 9 days. That to encourage us to treat it like a short time; a special time, so we will seize its blessings. Second, to remind us that our concept of time is skewed; just like Ramadān, life may seem long, but in reality it is not.’

And even if these acts seem too overwhelming to some, remember that at times the smallest acts done with the utmost sincerity can carry the greatest rewards. I have also received a message that gives a few examples of how this may be achieved. This has been accredited to a well-known Shaykh, but I have not been able to verify this. Nonetheless the  suggestions are certainly commendable.These are also brilliant ideas for getting the children more involved.

1. Give 1 dinar in charity every day, so if it falls on laylatul qadr it’s as if u gave charity everyday for 84 years.

2. Pray two ra’kaat everyday, so if it falls on laylatul qadr it’s as if u prayed everyday for 84 years.

3. Read Surah ikhlaas three times a day, so if it falls on laylatul qadr it’s as if u read the whole Quran everyday for 84 years.

Another simple exercise for the children for these last days, would be to try and learn the following dua:


Oh Allah allow us to be of those who are victorious
Oh Allah grant us success, and accept our actions, and make us of those whom YOU are pleased with

امين يا رب العالمين تقبل الله يا حي يا قيوم 🌺


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