Shumaysa, is 42 year old mummy, currently residing in the of city Jeddah, and the first contributor to our Global Muslim Mummy series.
According to Shumaysa, Jeddah, is a lively city with people from all around the globe living as residents. She quite enjoys living in this moderate city with a positive atmosphere for diverse cultures.
Jeddah is a Saudi Arabian port city on the Red Sea. It is a modern commercial hub and gateway for pilgrimages to the Islamic holy cities Mecca and Medina. Resort hotels, beaches and outdoor sculptures line the Corniche, a seafront promenade anchored by the iconic King Fahd’s Fountain. The city’s Al-Balad historic district dates to the 7th century and retains traditional homes built from coral.
Shumaysa’s responses are as follows:
1. How many children do you have, and how old are they?
I have two sons 13 and 10 years old.
2. What was your first reaction when you found out you were going to be a mum?
Very happy, excited, nervous and grateful to Allah!
3. What was the most difficult part of your pregnancy?
I was diagnosed with placenta previa condition. I had to take complete bed-rest after my 7th month with my older child.
4. How did you decide on your childrens’ names?
I liked a few names from before and all in the family liked the names. Me and my husband decided the names after consulting our elders.
We made sure the names had good meanings.
Sajid and Abed are my son’s names.
5. How would you describe your parenting style?
I am neither too lenient nor very strict. I take the medium way. When I need to be firm I do so. I believe that children need more love and assurance compared to strictness but discipline is important too.
6. What has been the most challenging part of being a parent?
When being firm becomes difficult.
7. What’s been the most rewarding part of being a parent?
Learned patience, matured mentally and emotionally yet always been in touch with innocence!
8. How does being a Muslim influence your parenting decisions?
Every thing is seen in the light of the teachings of Islam. We allow or disallow things based on them being liked or disliked by Allah.
9. How do you instill Islamic identity into your children, in terms of lifestyle, education etc?
First, they are told to hold fast to the obligatory prayers and the Quran.
Sometimes out of peer pressure or trending if they show inclination to non Islamic lifestyle they are told about them quoting the relevant ahadith.
It is a great advantage being in Saudi Arabia we are not exposed to many irrelevant matters.
10. As a parent, what is the most oft-repeated dua that you make for your children?
After every prayer I supplicate to Allah to keep my children on the right path and to make them among those who establish regular prayers.
11. What advice would you offer to other parents?
Till your children are small and still with you, give them your quality time. Read to them good books and narrate incidents from your life and others’ life to inspire them to be good human beings and good servants of Allah.
Be patient with them. : )
12. And to end off on a lighter note, share with us your favourite parenting quote/joke/meme ?
Once I made my younger son (who was about 4 or 5 yrs old at that time) learn a dua to ask Allah to grant me i.e. his mother Jannah. He went away and after some time came back and showed surprise. I asked him what happened. He said, “I asked Allah to grant you Jannah…but I see that you are still here.!” 😀
- Placenta previa is a condition in which the placenta partially or wholly blocks the neck of the uterus, so interfering with normal delivery of a baby. Bed rest at home may be prescribed, however is not always appropriate, and women who remain at home must be able to access medical care immediately should any bleeding occur. In most cases the babies are delivered via C-section.
Thank you for sharing ❤ I had a good chuckle at the reason for your sons surprise, but InShaAllah that dua too will be accepted.
For those who’d like to read more, Shumaysa is a fellow mummy blogger and you can find her blog at: