Farnaaz is a young mum from Port Shepstone, South Africa, and she is the next contributor to our GLOBAL MUSLIM MUMMY series.
1. How many children do you have, and how old are they?
I am blessed Alhamdulilah with three amazing sons aged 6 , 4 and 6 months.
2. What was your first reaction when you found out you were going to be a mum?
I cried and laughed at the same time. I was so overwhelmed that I was going to blessed with a lil angel. Alhamdulilah
3. What was the most difficult part of your pregnancy?
That definitely has got to be dealing with heartburn as I have suffered from very early stages of pregnancy.
4. How did you decide on your childrens names?
For my first son, my husband had his name ready…The other two we went through a long list of different names as the meaning was very important and also wanting them to be named after Sahabah as who could be perfect examples for them to lead their lives. Then came along the ability to pronounce the name correctly as well, as we know incorrect pronunciation changes the meaning.
5. How would you describe your parenting style?
I would say I’m in between cool and stern, as I want my kids to befriend me though they still need to understand the line between us.
6. What has been the most challenging part of being a parent?
The most challenging part would be teaching them right from wrong, good from bad, halaal and haram..as well as teaching them to appreciate things we take for granted and to be kind to those who don’t have it.
7. What’s been the most rewarding part of being a parent?
Definitely the hugs, kisses and hearing ‘I love u the mostest mum‘.
8. How does being a Muslim influence your parenting decisions?
Most certainly affects every part of everything every single day, as Muslims we have to try and find solutions through Allah and his Nabi (saw) though it is at times difficult.
9. How do you instill Islamic identity into your children, in terms of lifestyle, education ect?
We try our utmost to do simple things that are sunnah and by reading simple small duas to start of with. Making them find love in salah because they see you reading and immitate. Yes madresah is absolutely important though it is more important to be practising at home.
10. As a parent, what is the most oft-repeated dua that you make for your children?
I ask Allah to bless them with the best of health and to guide them through their lives. May Allah grant them steadfastness in deen and make them three huffaaz of the quraan at a young age..and Insha allah bless them with pious spouses, who will keep the three of them united as brothers …and may they live their lives in the path of Allah.
11. What advice would you offer to other parents?
My advice would be to trust your inner self, your instinct…sometimes books and doctors don’t know it all..After all Allah made you a mother to this particular child for a reason.
12. And to end off on a ligter note, share with us your favourite parenting quote/joke/meme ?
This pretty much sums it up…
Port Shepstone is a small coastal town on the South Coast, and has a large and prominent muslim community, which boasts 18 km of largely unspoilt and undeveloped beaches. During May to June of each year, Port Shepstone becomes famous for the sardine run which has the entire coast abuzz with activity. This is a strange and still largely unexplained phenomenon where millions of sardines wash up onto the shores. This causes a natural feeding frenzy, for the whole marine ecology for a brief spell each year. Southern Right whales and dolphins can also be sighted from the shore.
Thank you for sharing Farnaaz ❤
P.S: Port Shepstone is my hometown, and even though I don’t get to visit half as often as I’d like to, I can vouch for the fact that its a wonderful town to grow up in.